I'm 78. I remember my first time at the playground by myself. I'm minding my own activity when I'm approached by what today would be called a bully, "hey, give me your apple; no I say." The next day the same scenario; time passes; I'm bigger and stronger; the apple taker learns to find someone else or develop one or more strategies. A team is formed by the bully to still use physical controls or means of controls are developed that include; verbal abuse, use of control thru other means or tools i. e. you can't ride on my swings or use my slide, unless.