If you love me, you will ... (you fill in the blank). Did someone ever say that to you? What follows is usually something very important to the one who begins a request this way. When someone asks you to do something there generally is an element of choice involved. You can say yes, or no, and the person may have to accept your choice. But what if a lot hinges on your answer? If it's appropriate to your relationship, someone may begin by saying, "If you love me, you will do this for me." That brings the request to a whole new level. Now it's not a simple question. Now there is an emotional element attached to it. Someone would not say this to you if they didn't think that you loved them, and that love now requires something of you.